Become the Woman
Men Choose, Cherish
& Commit To
Stop being the woman who wonders where she stands.
Become the woman who is consistently pursued, deeply valued, proudly chosen, and building a secure future with a man who shows her exactly how much she matters.
The Standard is a 12-month identity and love coaching experience designed to change what you believe about yourself, men, commitment, and love-so you can naturally receive the extraordinary relationship you know you were meant to have.
Three live coaching calls each month • Private community • Complete transformation portal
"I am a completely different woman. I genuinely didn't even know this version of me existed."
I feel confident. Worthy. Beautiful. Good enough.
A year ago I would've been worried about whether they liked me.
Now I'm deciding if they're even a match for me.
You don't just want
a relationship.
You want a man who is clear about you. A man who plans the date, follows through, makes time for you, and shows you through his actions that you matter.
You want to feel
You want consistency that lasts beyond the first few dates. Generosity that feels natural. Communication that feels clear. Commitment that keeps moving forward.
You want
You want to feel deeply loved, fully chosen, highly valued, and secure.
And you want all of it to feel normal for you.
That is what we are creating inside The Standard.
You cannot create an extraordinary love life
from the same old story.
You already know you should have standards.
You know you should stop chasing men who give you mixed signals.
You know you deserve consistency, effort, honesty, and commitment.
But knowing what you deserve and truly believing it is normal for you to receive it are two very different things.
Your love life has been shaped by an internal story about:
Who you are in love.
What men are like.
How men treat you.
How difficult love is.
What you have to do to be chosen.
And what you genuinely believe you get to have.
That story changes what feels attractive. It changes what you tolerate. It changes how quickly you become emotionally attached. It changes the decisions you make when you are afraid of losing someone.
And it keeps you trying to prove your value to men who should be proving through their behavior that they deserve a place in your life.
You do not change this pattern by collecting more dating advice.
You change it by transforming the identity, beliefs, expectations, and emotional habits underneath it.
That is the work of The Standard.
Why The Standard works.
Most dating programs teach you what to say, what to text, or how to get a man to choose you.
The Standard changes what you believe, what you expect, what you accept, and who you are in love.
Heal What Keeps Repeating
You address the beliefs and emotional patterns underneath the relationships you have been creating.
Become the Woman Who Expects More
You build the identity of the woman who naturally expects to be chosen, cherished, prioritized, and committed to.
Recognize and Receive Extraordinary Love
You learn how healthy love shows up, how to choose it, and how to receive it when it arrives.
This is not about trying harder to get a different result.
It is about becoming the woman who naturally creates and receives a different kind of love.
The women inside The Standard don't just get different results. They become different women.
Identity Shift
"The craziest part is that this feels normal now."
A year ago I would've thought this kind of relationship only happened to other women.
Peace
"The one thing I have now that I can never remember having before is peace."
The biggest gift isn't the house or the money. It's the peace.
Commitment
"A year ago I was crying over a man who couldn't decide if he wanted a relationship. Now I'm about to get engaged."
Joining your group was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
Everything inside The Standard
is designed to create one result.
An extraordinary love life that matches the woman you are becoming.
Foundation
Heal the beliefs, emotional patterns, and past experiences underneath what you have repeatedly accepted and created in love.
Build your new love life on an entirely different foundation.
The New Story
Identify the beliefs quietly shaping your relationships and replace them with a new belief system.
One where being chosen, valued, respected, and deeply loved feels natural for you.
Future Memories
Immersive identity experiences that help you become familiar with who you are in love.
Chosen. Prioritized. Cherished. Safe. Deeply loved.
Extraordinary Dating
Create a new expectation for how men show up for you.
Normalize high-caliber, generous, intentional men who pursue you clearly and treat you as important from the beginning.
Recognizing Healthy Love
Learn how to recognize consistency, integrity, emotional safety, compatibility, and genuine commitment.
So you can see who a man truly is before becoming attached to his potential.
Extraordinary Commitment
Make secure commitment feel safe, natural, and expected.
Experience the relationship, engagement, marriage, and future you desire until being fully chosen becomes part of what you know is available for you.
Extraordinary Love
Rewrite your story of what love feels like once you are living inside it.
Peaceful. Affectionate. Supportive. Devoted. Secure. Extraordinary.
The Reset Room
Receive support for the exact moments when dating or relationships trigger fear, rejection, or anxiety.
Return to yourself, reconnect with your worth, and respond from the woman you are becoming.
Coaching Replays
Revisit powerful coaching around real dating, relationship, identity, and commitment situations.
See the work applied to real life and recognize your own patterns more clearly.
Guided Implementation Challenges
Short, focused challenges help you practice receiving, raise your standard, and make decisions from your new identity.
This is where the work becomes something you live.
EVERY WOMAN
DESERVES TO BE
CHOSEN.
Not kept around. Not settled for. Chosen — every single day, by a man who knows exactly what he has.
This is the woman you are becoming.
You take your time getting to know a man.
You let his actions show you who he is.
You expect effort, consistency, generosity, and clear commitment.
You receive without guilt.
You know your value.
You make decisions that honor the love you want.
You expect to be chosen.
You expect commitment to move forward.
And anything below your standard no longer gets access to you.
The problem was not
the man.
It was the standard.
The standard you accept. The standard you expect.
The standard you believe is available to you.
Information creates awareness.
Coaching helps you live it.
You will receive three live group-coaching calls every month.
First, second, and third Wednesday
12:00 p.m. Eastern
This is where we apply the work directly to your life.
Bring:
The date you cannot stop thinking about.
The man whose behavior you are trying to understand.
The trigger that keeps repeating.
The belief you cannot seem to move beyond.
The standard you are afraid to hold.
The women who consistently attend, ask questions, receive coaching, and stay engaged tend to experience faster and deeper transformation than women who only consume content privately.
You have made a significant investment in yourself.
Schedule your lunch.
Block the time.
Show up as often as you reasonably can.
Every call is recorded and added to the Coaching Replays library for your entire year.
You are supported between calls.
Your private Telegram community keeps you connected to the women walking this journey with you.
This is where you can:
Celebrate wins.
Share breakthroughs.
Ask for encouragement.
Receive reminders of who you are becoming.
Support other women.
Stay connected between coaching calls.
This is not a space for endlessly repeating old stories.
It is a community of women helping one another rise into a completely different standard of love.
The Standard Is for You If…
You are ready to stop settling for less than the love you truly want.
You are ready to stop repeating relationships with inconsistent or noncommittal men.
You want commitment, engagement, marriage, or a secure lifelong partnership.
You are ready to change the beliefs and patterns shaping your love life.
You want more than dating advice and surface-level tactics.
You are willing to receive coaching and apply what you learn.
You want to feel chosen, prioritized, cherished, and secure in love.
You are ready to make extraordinary love your standard.
Meet Kim Velez
I have spent more than 15 years helping women understand the beliefs, emotional patterns, and past experiences shaping their lives and relationships.
As a therapist since 2011 and an identity transformation coach since 2019, I have seen the same thing repeatedly:
You can know you deserve more and still accept less.
You can understand your patterns and still repeat them when fear takes over.
You can learn every dating strategy available and still struggle to receive the love you truly want.
Because information alone does not change your identity.
That is why I created The Standard.
This work brings together healing, belief transformation, identity work, practical relationship wisdom, and live coaching.
So you do not simply learn what extraordinary love should look like.
You become the woman who expects it, recognizes it, chooses it, and receives it.
I am here to help you stop creating a love life beneath your standard, and build one that reflects the woman you truly are.
Everything you receive inside The Standard
Three live group-coaching calls every month
Twelve months of coaching and support
The complete transformation portal
Foundation and belief-transformation work
Future Memories and guided identity experiences
Extraordinary Dating, Commitment, and Love libraries
Recognizing Healthy Love teachings and workbooks
Situation-specific support inside The Reset Room
Guided implementation challenges
Private Telegram community
Full access to Coaching Replays
Remaining founding curriculum released during your enrollment
Real women. Real results.
Her Words
"I never thought I'd be able to say that."
Our relationship is better than it's ever been.
Her Words
"A year ago I would've thought this kind of relationship only happened to other women."
He plans dates, surprises me, talks about our future, and makes me feel loved every single day.
Her Words
"I never have to wonder where I stand with him."
For the first time in my life, I don't feel anxious in a relationship.
Frequently asked questions
You don't have to. Most women join because they're tired of settling for less than what they actually want. The belief comes after the evidence. The shift comes after the decision.
Perfect. Many women join while they're single. In fact, it's one of the most powerful times to do this work because you get to create a completely different dating experience moving forward instead of repeating the same patterns with a different man.
That's exactly where many women start. Women join The Standard while single, dating, heartbroken, in situationships, and in relationships. Some experience commitment, relationships, or engagements while inside the program. Others experience those results afterwards. Every woman arrives at a different point in her journey, but the goal is the same: to create an extraordinary love life and stop settling for less than what she truly wants.
Every live group coaching call is recorded and available to watch during your enrollment, so you'll never miss the coaching even if you can't attend live.
The live group coaching calls take place on the first, second, and third Wednesday of every month at 12 PM Eastern.
No. What I can tell you is that women who fully participate in this work often experience extraordinary changes in both themselves and their love lives. Some experience commitment, relationships, or engagements during their enrollment. Others experience those results afterwards. What I can promise is that if you show up, participate, and apply what you're learning, you will not be the same woman twelve months from now.
Because your spot is reserved specifically for you and this is a live coaching program, all sales are final and there are no refunds. When you enroll, you're making a twelve-month commitment to yourself and your future.
If you're approved for a payment plan, you're agreeing to complete all scheduled payments regardless of participation, attendance, or usage of the program.
I will show up fully for you. I ask that you make the same commitment to yourself.
"I am completely spoiled, adored, and treated like an absolute princess."
Founding Member Pricing
Women who join now receive immediate access to everything currently inside The Standard, plus all trainings, tools, resources, meditations, visualizations, and member experiences being added over the next 90 days.
Once the Founding Member phase is complete, the investment increases to $5,997.
12-Month Coaching Experience
After Founding Member Enrollment
$5,997
This rate will not be offered again once the Founding Member phase is complete.
12-Month Coaching Experience • All Sales Final
Extraordinary love becomes
your standard.
You are worthy of being fully chosen, deeply valued, and building the extraordinary relationship you desire.
This is where you become the woman who expects it, recognizes it, and receives it.
Join The StandardJoin now at founding-member pricing. The investment increases when founding enrollment closes.